{"id":13943,"date":"2018-10-07T18:40:06","date_gmt":"2018-10-07T18:40:06","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/tayosolagbade.com\/sdnuggets\/?p=13943"},"modified":"2018-10-07T18:40:06","modified_gmt":"2018-10-07T18:40:06","slug":"ignore-the-macho-myth-asking-for-help-means-youre-truly-strong-advice-for-battered-men","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/tayosolagbade.com\/sdnuggets\/ignore-the-macho-myth-asking-for-help-means-youre-truly-strong-advice-for-battered-men\/","title":{"rendered":"Ignore the Macho Myth\u2122: Asking for Help Means You're Truly Strong [Advice for Battered MEN]"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><em>Below is an excerpt from my recent report on the symposium I attended on Domestic Violence, which I've turned into a special one page image flyer offering ADVICE for battered men. Download and share to any person(s) you feel will find it useful.<br \/>\n<\/em><\/p>\n<blockquote><p>\"Even the fictional superman gets helped every now and then \u2013 and by little kids too (because unlike him, they are immune to Kryptonite). Refuse societal pressures to endure abuse to prove you\u2019re strong, or because it\u2019s what a man does. Nothing could be further from the truth. This quote, by a moderator at the 2018 Symposium organized by the Lagos State DSVRT puts it better:<\/p>\n<p><em>\u201cIf boys were not meant to cry, they would not have tear glands.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n<p>Understand that YOU, being male, are a human being, with feelings and emotions \u2013 just like women and children. The longer you stay exposed to abuse, the more damage it does to you. It will take its toll, wearing you down, until you crack. So, if you\u2019re experiencing abuse, be it physical, emotional or psychological, from someone who refuses to stop, GET AWAY NOW, and seek help FAST.<\/p>\n<p>Your manhood is not proven by a refusal to protect yourself from harm. That\u2019s not bravery, that\u2019s foolhardiness. It\u2019s not strength, it\u2019s stupidity. Asking for help will NOT make you any less of a man. Get help NOW, before something happens that you, and\/or your abuser may end up regretting.\u201d \u2013 Tayo K. Solagbade<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"http:\/\/tayosolagbade.com\/sdnuggets\/pii-135-neglecting-domestic-violence-victims-can-cause-serious-tragedies-true-stories-highlights-from-my-discussion-of-the-culture-of-silence-as-it-negatively-affects-male-survivors-at-the-2\/#.W7pMbNdKhdg\" target=\"_blank\">PII 135: Neglecting Domestic Violence Victims Can Cause Serious Tragedies \u2013 True Stories [Highlights from my discussion of \u201cThe Culture of Silence as it negatively affects male Survivors.\u201d at the 2018 SYMPOSIUM IN COMMEMORATION OF THE LAGOS STATE DOMESTIC AND SEXUAL VIOLENCE AWARENESS MONTH]<\/a> \u2013 held at MUSON Centre\u2019s Agip Recital Hall on Lagos Island<\/p>\n<p><strong>Read this special report at <a href=\"http:\/\/www.tinyurl.com\/dvamtalkmuson\" target=\"_blank\">www.tinyurl.com\/dvamtalkmuson<\/a><\/strong><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p><a href=\"http:\/\/tayosolagbade.com\/sdnuggets\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/10\/Ignore-the-Macho-Myth.png\" rel=\"attachment wp-att-13944\"><img decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-13944\" src=\"http:\/\/tayosolagbade.com\/sdnuggets\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/10\/Ignore-the-Macho-Myth.png\" alt=\"Ignore-the-Macho-Myth\" width=\"580\" srcset=\"http:\/\/tayosolagbade.com\/sdnuggets\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/10\/Ignore-the-Macho-Myth.png 838w, http:\/\/tayosolagbade.com\/sdnuggets\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/10\/Ignore-the-Macho-Myth-300x228.png 300w, http:\/\/tayosolagbade.com\/sdnuggets\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/10\/Ignore-the-Macho-Myth-768x584.png 768w, http:\/\/tayosolagbade.com\/sdnuggets\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/10\/Ignore-the-Macho-Myth-150x114.png 150w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 838px) 100vw, 838px\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Below is an excerpt from my recent report on the symposium I attended on Domestic Violence, which I've turned into a special one page image flyer offering ADVICE for battered men. Download and share to any person(s) you feel will find it useful. \"Even the fictional superman gets helped every now and then \u2013 and [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[2852,1375,266,814,1440],"tags":[3409],"class_list":["post-13943","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-domestic-violence-against-men-dvam","category-excel-vb-solutions","category-my-dn-travel-news","category-my-ideas-for-making-nigeria-better","category-recommended-websites-articles","tag-ignore-the-macho-myth-asking-for-help-means-youre-truly-strong-advice-for-battered-men"],"aioseo_notices":[],"views":864,"jetpack_featured_media_url":"","_links":{"self":[{"href":"http:\/\/tayosolagbade.com\/sdnuggets\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/13943","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"http:\/\/tayosolagbade.com\/sdnuggets\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"http:\/\/tayosolagbade.com\/sdnuggets\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/tayosolagbade.com\/sdnuggets\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/tayosolagbade.com\/sdnuggets\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=13943"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"http:\/\/tayosolagbade.com\/sdnuggets\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/13943\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":13945,"href":"http:\/\/tayosolagbade.com\/sdnuggets\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/13943\/revisions\/13945"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"http:\/\/tayosolagbade.com\/sdnuggets\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=13943"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/tayosolagbade.com\/sdnuggets\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=13943"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/tayosolagbade.com\/sdnuggets\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=13943"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}