{"id":11305,"date":"2017-01-25T21:28:10","date_gmt":"2017-01-25T21:28:10","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/tayosolagbade.com\/sdnuggets\/?p=11305"},"modified":"2017-01-25T21:48:54","modified_gmt":"2017-01-25T21:48:54","slug":"study-your-childs-naughty-actions-to-discover-her-genius-true-story-secretly-keeping-a-pet-turtle-then-getting-caught-flogged","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/tayosolagbade.com\/sdnuggets\/study-your-childs-naughty-actions-to-discover-her-genius-true-story-secretly-keeping-a-pet-turtle-then-getting-caught-flogged\/","title":{"rendered":"Study Your Child's Naughty Actions to Discover Her Genius [True Story: Secretly Keeping a Pet Turtle  - Then Getting Caught &#038; Flogged!]"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Kids will always get into trouble. Every parent must accept this as a reality. What matters is how we help them LEARN from the mistakes they make, so they arrive adulthood as well rounded and competent individuals.<\/p>\n<p>I for one got into all sorts of trouble between the ages of 10 and 16. Today, I coach my own kids (3 of them teenage boys) on a daily basis, and it's NOT been funny dealing with their naughty sides.<\/p>\n<p>I've however found my own past experiences from going through that phase quite useful in \"parenting\" them.<\/p>\n<p>There's however one very important insight I've since gained:<\/p>\n<p><strong>It's that quite often, if you pay close enough attention, your child's naughty actions may provide pointers to a natural gift, talent or ability that s\/he may be able to exploit to achieve success in adult life via a formal income earning vocation.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>In my case, my passion for wild life and agriculture as a child, reflects in the work I now do as an expert supporting livestock farmers, and providing agro-based solutions (like my <a href=\"http:\/\/tinyurl.com\/RealRationDemo\" target=\"_blank\">Excel-VB Ration Formulator<\/a>, <a href=\"http:\/\/www.lulu.com\/shop\/tayo-solagbade\/practical-livestock-feed-formulation-handbook\/ebook\/product-20817463.html\" target=\"_blank\">Feed Formulation Handbook<\/a>, Excel-VB <a href=\"http:\/\/tinyurl.com\/15pfmVideos\" target=\"_blank\">Poultry Farm Manager<\/a>, my Feed Formulation <a href=\"http:\/\/tayosolagbade.com\/sdnuggets\/your-practical-feed-formulation-compounding-home-study-video-series-is-now-available\/#.WIkVHdIrJdg\" target=\"_blank\">Home Study Video Series<\/a> etc).<\/p>\n<p>What follows below is a true story about one of my many naughty escapades as a school age child, which illustrates the point I've made above:<\/p>\n<blockquote>\n<h3>Secretly Keeping a Pet Turtle (Then Getting Caught & Flogged)!<\/h3>\n<p><a title=\"Secretly Keeping a Pet Turtle (Then Getting Caught & Flogged)!\" href=\"http:\/\/tayosolagbade.com\/sdnuggets\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/01\/turtle-pic.jpg\" rel=\"attachment wp-att-11303\"><img decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-11303\" src=\"http:\/\/tayosolagbade.com\/sdnuggets\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/01\/turtle-pic.jpg\" alt=\"Secretly Keeping a Pet Turtle (Then Getting Caught & Flogged)!\" width=\"580\" srcset=\"http:\/\/tayosolagbade.com\/sdnuggets\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/01\/turtle-pic.jpg 1312w, http:\/\/tayosolagbade.com\/sdnuggets\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/01\/turtle-pic-288x300.jpg 288w, http:\/\/tayosolagbade.com\/sdnuggets\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/01\/turtle-pic-768x799.jpg 768w, http:\/\/tayosolagbade.com\/sdnuggets\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/01\/turtle-pic-984x1024.jpg 984w, http:\/\/tayosolagbade.com\/sdnuggets\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/01\/turtle-pic-144x150.jpg 144w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 1312px) 100vw, 1312px\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n<p>One day I caught a small turtle during one of our trips to catch crabs. It was about the size of my palm. I excitedly took it home, and secretly kept and fed it (I think earthworms \u2013 but not sure now) for months.<\/p>\n<p><strong>One day my brother, Femi found out about it. I pleaded with him to say nothing to our parents. He agreed.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>But later on, when we had one of our few BIG quarrels as kids, he went and told my Dad that I was keeping a tortoise downstairs in the backyard, near the well.<\/p>\n<p>My father was enraged, and called me to ask if it was true. I said it was. That night I got the beating of my life.<\/p>\n<p>We had a Guava tree at the back of the house at Olodi-Apapa, where we lived then. Once you were to be flogged, the tree would \u201csupply\u201d some long slim branches. Oh, how I resented that tree!<\/p>\n<p><strong>After my punishment that night, my father asked me to get the turtle out of the old sink I\u2019d kept it in, and take it to the car.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Then he drove right to the middle of the bridge that crossed the Lagoon (I believe it\u2019s called Carter bridge), and asked me to drop the turtle into the water.<\/p>\n<p>My heart bled as I did that, but I had no choice. It was obvious he was greatly upset that I\u2019d brought a turtle home. But I did not know why. He never told me why. To myself I said: \u201cAfterall, it\u2019s not a snake!\u201d<\/p>\n<p>You may wonder why I kept the Turtle a secret in the first place.<\/p>\n<p>In truth, I have no idea. We kept lots of cats (mother - and kittens she put to litter, which we gave out) and a dog in the house for years.<\/p>\n<p>Maybe I anticipated my parents would say no to another pet.<\/p>\n<p>But I must say I never expected such an extreme reaction from my Dad. Many years later, I asked my mother about it, and she explained that the shell of the turtle had some traditional significance he was not comfortable with.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Anyway, that experience of losing the Turtle only made me more interested in aquatic life.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>2 decades later, <a href=\"http:\/\/tayosolagbade.com\/sdnuggets\/working-as-a-farm-hand-enabled-me-create-my-self-cleaning-aquariums\/\" target=\"_blank\">I\u2019ve created my own brand of Natural Self-Cleaning Aquariums\u2122<\/a> that I build for use as learning aids (e.g. to explain concepts like the Nitrogen Cycle, Balanced Ecosystem) in schools and other places.<\/p>\n<p>And between 2000 and 2004, I spent many long hours visiting all sorts of water bodies and aquarium shops, as well as fish farms, collecting, breeding, and rearing - different kinds of beautiful, but hardy, ornamental fish species e.g. Platy, Gourami etc.<\/p>\n<p><em>In the home I intend to setup for my family in Cotonou, we\u2019re going to have a special aquatic garden (with lighted glass aquarium displays at night) next to the home based Brew Pub we\u2019ll be running. It\u2019s a concept I already tested extensively at our family house in Lagos between 2002 and 2005. So I know it works.<\/em><\/p>\n<p><strong>Read:\u00a0<a title=\"Permanent Link to Working As A Farm Hand Enabled Me Create My Self-Cleaning Aquariums\" href=\"http:\/\/tayosolagbade.com\/sdnuggets\/working-as-a-farm-hand-enabled-me-create-my-self-cleaning-aquariums\/\" rel=\"bookmark\">Working As A Farm Hand Enabled Me Create My Self-Cleaning Aquariums<\/a><\/strong><\/p>\n<p>This article is based on excerpts from my first <a href=\"http:\/\/www.lulu.com\/spotlight\/sdaproducts?searchTerms=&pageOffset=2\" target=\"_blank\">Best Practice Parenting Book published in 2014 for sale in print and ebook format via lulu.com\/spotlight\/sdaproducts - click to view the book<\/a>.<\/p>\n<p><a title=\"Kukuru Danger\u2122 - 5 True Stories About the Adventures - and Misadventures! - of a School Age Child Trying to Find Purpose in Life\" href=\"http:\/\/tayosolagbade.com\/sdnuggets\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/01\/kukuru-front2017.png\" rel=\"attachment wp-att-11306\"><img decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-11306\" src=\"http:\/\/tayosolagbade.com\/sdnuggets\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/01\/kukuru-front2017.png\" alt=\"Kukuru Danger\u2122 - 5 True Stories About the Adventures - and Misadventures! - of a School Age Child Trying to Find Purpose in Life\" width=\"680\" srcset=\"http:\/\/tayosolagbade.com\/sdnuggets\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/01\/kukuru-front2017.png 749w, http:\/\/tayosolagbade.com\/sdnuggets\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/01\/kukuru-front2017-200x300.png 200w, http:\/\/tayosolagbade.com\/sdnuggets\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/01\/kukuru-front2017-682x1024.png 682w, http:\/\/tayosolagbade.com\/sdnuggets\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/01\/kukuru-front2017-100x150.png 100w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 749px) 100vw, 749px\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p><\/blockquote>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Kids will always get into trouble. Every parent must accept this as a reality. What matters is how we help them LEARN from the mistakes they make, so they arrive adulthood as well rounded and competent individuals. I for one got into all sorts of trouble between the ages of 10 and 16. 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