{"id":11286,"date":"2017-01-23T13:26:07","date_gmt":"2017-01-23T13:26:07","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/tayosolagbade.com\/sdnuggets\/?p=11286"},"modified":"2017-01-23T13:31:43","modified_gmt":"2017-01-23T13:31:43","slug":"pii-050-you-cannot-achieve-your-goals-all-alone-hint-how-to-get-others-to-gladly-support-you-to-succeed","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/tayosolagbade.com\/sdnuggets\/pii-050-you-cannot-achieve-your-goals-all-alone-hint-how-to-get-others-to-gladly-support-you-to-succeed\/","title":{"rendered":"PII 050: You Cannot Achieve Your Goals All Alone (Hint: How to Get Others to Gladly Support You to Succeed)"},"content":{"rendered":"

2 weeks ago, in issue \u201cPII 048\u201d of this Performance Improvement Ideas (PII) newsletter, I explained why \u201cYou Need to Habitually Study Successful People\", if you wish \u201cTo Make Success a Habit.<\/p>\n

In that piece I also explained why you need to analyze your failures (and they will be MANY) also in order to learn how to succeed better.<\/p>\n

Now in this issue, I explain why you need to share from doing the above with others around you. Not just those close to you, but any persons you have cause to interact with, in the process of trying to succeed.<\/p>\n

The reason you have to do that is this:<\/em><\/p>\n

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Tayo Solagbade's<\/a>
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Monday 23rd January 2017<\/em><\/p>\n

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PII 050: You Cannot Achieve Your Goals All Alone (Hint: How to Get Others to Gladly Support You to Succeed)<\/h1>\n

2 weeks ago, in issue \u201cPII 048\u201d of this Performance Improvement Ideas (PII) newsletter, I explained why \u201cYou Need to Habitually Study Successful People\", if you wish \u201cTo Make Success a Habit<\/a>.<\/p>\n

In that piece I also explained why you need to analyze your failures (and they will be MANY) also in order to learn how to succeed better.<\/p>\n

Now in this issue, I explain why you need to share from doing the above with others around you. Not just those close to you, but any persons you have cause to interact with, in the process of trying to succeed.<\/p>\n

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The reason you have to do that is this:<\/em><\/p>\n

It is very unlikely that you will be able to achieve your goals all alone!<\/h3>\n

In other words there are very few people who are able to achieve authentic success, without needing help from others.<\/p>\n

As the saying goes,\u00a0no man is an island<\/u><\/em><\/strong>.<\/p>\n

The truth, as has been my experience and that of others who stories I've read, is that you will find it necessary at some point in time, as you try to achieve your goal, to pass some of the lessons you learn to others you come across, and identify to be in NEED of such information, education and\/or insights.<\/p>\n

Note that you would do this NOT because you feel superior to them, or you want to prove a point.<\/p>\n

Instead you would do so because - apart from boosting their ability to succeed in achieving their own goals - it would be in your long term interest, to get them to understand where you are coming from.<\/p>\n

If people do not see what you see, and gain the insights that you have about why you need to operate the way you do to achieve your success:<\/h3>\n
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  1. They may not know what to do, and how to do it, when you encounter challenges and need them to support you like you may have done for them.<\/li>\n
  2. They may not be able to adequately prepare themselves to support you if\/when the need to do so arises.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

    In other words, if you share with them the insights you've gained from studying the lives of other successful people, you would be inadvertently informing and educating them about why they need to think and act the way those successful people DID (like YOU are doing) if they wish to boost their changes of achieving the successes they desire.<\/p>\n

    However, not everybody wants to, or finds it easy to get out of his\/her comfort zone to do something few people have (or no one has) done before.<\/h3>\n

    Some people are comfortable being where they are!<\/em><\/p>\n

    They don't like stress or uncertainty - and they certainly do not like taking risks....all of which those of us who are entrepreneurs thrive on!<\/p>\n

    If you are an entrepreneur, or you have the mindset of one, then I'm sure you know what I mean.<\/p>\n

    We never see setbacks as bad things - but those who lack our mindset do, and that's why quite often when they learn of things going wrong for us, they imagine the worst and wonder why we insist on forging ahead \ud83d\ude42<\/p>\n

    Luckily, most of us have enough wisdom backed by resilience to NOT let their negative mindsets discourage us from staying true to our cause till we succeed.<\/p>\n

    The above is why entrepreneurs generally tend to be in the minority within most populations. The larger majority love to be salaried employees, avoiding the insecurities of having to stand on their own to find ways to earn income.<\/p>\n

    People with entrepreneurial traits are rarely in the majority in society.<\/h3>\n

    That's just the way it is. That\u2019s because it's not easy and generally not fun - at least not in those initial stages of building from the ground up as a startup.<\/p>\n

    Those are often VERY challenging, potentially traumatizing periods in the life of most entrepreneurs. I have been through it, so I know.<\/p>\n

    For those of us who are entrepreneurial by nature, we actually get a thrill from doing it all, no matter how hard it gets or how long it takes.<\/p>\n

    But those who are NOT, when they decide to become entrepreneurs, find it to be an unpleasant experience - especially when things are not going well for them.<\/p>\n

    So it's not everyone that will want to be an entrepreneur.<\/p>\n

    Therefore you need to understand that in functioning as one, you will periodically find yourself having to relate with others who LACK that mindset you have, but who you may have to approach for help or support to keep going!<\/h3>\n

    Do you see what I'm getting at here?<\/p>\n

    These would be people who would NEVER on their own choose the path you have adopted as an entrepreneur, but they would be in your network and in a position, at some point to give you what you need to recover from setbacks or progress to the next stage of your entrepreneurial evolution.<\/p>\n

    For instance they may be those you have to ask to lend you money, load you their cars, or other resources you need, give you a reference, or recommend you to others. Sometimes you may have to live - or share office space - with them etc.<\/p>\n

    So these people you may find yourself needing to relate with and\/or request help or support from may not necessarily share your entrepreneurial mindset e.g. they may think a lot of what you're doing or trying to do is crazy - and that would make it difficult to convince them that helping you is a good idea...especially when it has to do with THEM giving YOU their money to use for that purpose!<\/p>\n

    That's why you need to find a way to share your insights with them in a manner that enables them UNDERSTAND what makes you tick.<\/h3>\n

    If you refuse to develop that ability, you're going to have to work a LOT on your own, with little or no support from others who have the means to give it.<\/p>\n

    So for you to interface with others who do NOT do what you do, and make them feel like lending you a hand, you will have to learn to communicate what you see (your vision) and fee (your passion).<\/p>\n

    And so you need to be able to able to communicate what you see (your vision), and communicate what you feel (your passion), in a manner that attracts other people and makes them feel like buying into your vision and supporting you to achieve it.<\/p>\n

    Now the minute you learn how to do that, you'll find that sometimes 50% of the work you need to do is taken away.<\/h3>\n

    This is because they'll likely become your most fervent advocates, sometimes going out of their way to do things for you and\/or ask you how they can help.<\/p>\n

    As you make that happen in your life, you'll find that succeeding becomes a much easier endeavor.<\/p>\n

    Next week I'm going to talk you about\u00a0 the role that (deliberate) exposure to poverty can play in preparing people to achieve authentic success, not just in business, but in any area of life.<\/em><\/p>\n

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    New posts from last week*<\/span><\/p>\n

    Monday<\/span>:<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

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    PII 049: You Can Formulate Rations for ANY Animal, by Applying Feed Formulation Science Based on Nutrient Requirements<\/a><\/h2>\n
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    [Tuesday]<\/span>:<\/strong><\/h2>\n<\/div>\n
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    Friends and Relatives May Not be the Right Target Audience (on Facebook) for Your Solutions<\/a><\/h2>\n

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    [Wednesday<\/span>]:<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

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    [Recommended] Stop Trying to Delight Your Customers<\/a><\/h2>\n<\/div>\n

    [Thursday<\/span>]:<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

    Fear Can Be Very Costly!<\/a><\/h2>\n

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Tayo K. Solagbade*<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

Self-Development\/Performance Improvement Specialist<\/strong><\/p>\n

*Best Practice Farm Business Support Specialist & Founder of the MS Excel Heaven Visual Basic Automation Club and Competition<\/em><\/span><\/p>\n

Mobile:<\/strong> +234-803-302-1263 (in Nigeria<\/strong>) or +229-66-122-136 (in Benin Republic<\/strong>)<\/p>\n

http:\/<\/a><\/span>\/www.tayosolagbade.com<\/a><\/p>\n

Tayo K. Solagbade<\/a> is a Location Independent Performance Improvement<\/b><\/p>\n

Specialist and Multipreneur (i.e. a highly versatile\/multi-skilled entrepreneur), with a bias for delivering Best Practice solutions to Farm Businesses and others.<\/p>\n

Since 2002, he has earned multiple streams of income providing individuals and organizations with personal development training and coaching, custom MS Excel-VB solutions<\/a>, web marketing<\/a> systems\/web hosting<\/a>, freelance writing services, and best practice extension support services (for farm business owners<\/a>).<\/p>\n

Tayo is the author of the Self-Development (SD) Bible\u2122<\/a> and the popular Livestock Feed Formulation<\/a> Handbook. He is also the developer of its accompanying Excel-VB driven Ration Formulator\u2122<\/a> and the Poultry Farm <\/a>Manager\u2122 software.<\/p>\n

He has delivered talks\/papers to audiences in <\/a>various groups and organizations, including the Centre for Management Development, University of Lagos, Christ Baptist Church, Volunteer Corps, Tantalisers Fast Foods and others.<\/p>\n

In May 2012 he was the Guest Speaker at the Centre for Entrepreneurship Development\u2019s Annual Semester Entrepreneurial Lecture at Yaba College of Technology in Lagos.<\/p>\n

On 1st April 2013, Tayo (who reads, write and speaks the French language) relocated to Cotonou, Benin Republic<\/a> to begin slowly traveling across the West African region.<\/p>\n

His key purpose is to deliver talks, seminars <\/strong>and workshops on his key areas of focus and interest to interested audiences (Email tayo at tksola dot com for details).<\/p>\n

In a previous life, before leaving to become self-employed, Tayo served for seven years (October 1994 to December 2001) as a high performing manager in Guinness Nigeria. He rose from Shift Brewer to Training & Technical Development Manager, and later acted in senior roles as Production Manager and Technical Manager.<\/p>\n

In addition to constantly challenging the status quo and influencing positive work changes, he built a reputation for using self-taught spreadsheet programming skills (starting with Lotus 1-2-3, and later moving to Excel Visual Basic) - in his spare time - to develop Automated Spreadsheet Applications to computerize manual report generation processes in the departments he worked. Over four(4) of his applications were adopted for brewery level reporting.<\/strong><\/a><\/p>\n

Tayo holds a B.Sc degree in Agricultural Extension Services from the University of Ibadan, Nigeria, having graduated top of his class - with Second Class Upper Division honors - in 1992. He is an Associate Member of the UK Institute & Guild of Brewing, a 1997 National Finalist of the Nigerian Institute of Management\u2019s(NIM) Young Managers\u2019 competition, a Certified Psychometric Test Administrator for Psytech UK, innovator of Spontaneous Coaching for Self-Development\u2122 (SCfS-D\u2122), and Founder of the Self-Development Academy (SDAc)<\/a>.<\/p>\n

When he's not amazing clients with his superhuman skills (wink), Tayo works as the creative force behind his Daily Self-Development Nuggets blog<\/a> - on which he also publishes The Farm CEO Weekly Newspaper (sent via email to paid subscribers) and his Weekly Performance Improvement IDEAS<\/a> newsletter.<\/p>\n

You can connect with him on Twitter @tksola.com<\/a> and Facebook<\/a>.<\/p>\n

Visit Tayo Solagbade Dot Com<\/a>, to download over over 10 performance improvement resources to boost your personal and work related productivity.<\/p>\n

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\n[IMPORTANT NOTE:====<\/h3>\n

On 4th May 2014, Tayo's 9 year old domain (Spontaneousdevelopment dot com), which hosted his website, was taken over by Aplus.net.<\/em><\/p>\n

Within a few days however, Tayo used his advanced self-taught web development skills to build a SUPERIOR \"reincarnation\" of it the website http:\/\/www.tayosolagbade.com<\/a>.<\/p>\n

But updates are still ongoing to URLs bearing the old domain name in most of the over 1,000 web pages, and blog posts\u00a0<\/strong><\/em>he's published.<\/p>\n

If you experience any difficulties finding a page or document, email Tayo at tksola dot com.<\/p>\n

Click \"Tayo, What Happened to\u00a0SpontaneousDevelopmentDotCom<\/a> ?\" to read a detailed narrative about how the above event occurred :-))<\/p>\n

Here's an article Tayo wrote, to inspire others to defy adversity, and bounce back to even greater reckoning at what they do EVERY time:<\/h4>\n
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Succeed by Emerging from Adversity Like a Phoenix<\/a><\/p>\n

(TayoSolagbade.com launches extra Hosting plan with FREE Web Marketing!)<\/p>\n<\/div>\n

And he wrote the one below, to explain why losing a domain name, no matter how old, NO LONGER determines your online success or otherwise:<\/h4>\n

A Proven Strategy to Find Profitable Buyers Regardless of Your Domain Name<\/a>
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